"Nothing better than a massage with slow circles on my back, and baby oil down my legs."
"I love when he will do anything to make me come. I'm not difficult, but that he wants it so bad is awesome!"
"Listening to what works and what doesn't is so great. I'm kinda complicated. He is patient and takes his time."
"I want him to look at me, directly into my eyes, especially as he puts it in. OMG."

She wants to feel special. She wants to feel desired. And she might want to be spoiled, too. But let's remember that she is also allowing another human being inside her body, and that comes with a combination of comfort, submission, and trust. 

Bottom line: Take the time to make things about her, and she will more that willingly reciprocate. A little extra goes a long way.