Once our heart connects with another person, it can be very difficult to let them go. Even if you know they aren't the right person for you—or if they are emotionally unavailable, or unaffectionate, or controlling, or... or... or— we end up hanging on because we feel that the connection is/was so strong. To top it off, we have a laundry list of moments in our heads—perfect moments of connection, passion and bliss. But here's the thing: Those perfect moments don't encapsulate the relationship. If they did and things were so right/great, the relationship wouldn't have ended. The reality of a broken relationship is a hard thing to see, especially if you put your all into things.