If you're like most of the people I coach, you stick to your patterns. 

YOUR PATTERNS feel comfortable, because you convince yourself that it's all you know.

YOUR PATTERNS feel right because the unknown is scary.

YOUR PATTERNS feel familiar, and that feels secure.

So your patterns stay with you.

You focus on how you believe you feel, and ignore all the red flags.

You fall in love with the possibilities instead of the realities.

You pretend all the things that don't work will fix themselves.

You stay because you think you can't do any better.

You stay because you hope it will go back to the way it used to be.


It's okay. Give yourself a break. You're human. We all make mistakes.

Including me.

Take a moment to just take a big, deep breath... and let it go for a second.

Forgive yourself for the past, because you can't back up and change it.

All you can do is reflect on it, learn from it, and move on.

The fact that you've overlooked things doesn't brand you as stupid or naive.

It also doesn't mean that it has to stay this way.

It's time for you to make some changes that stick... and kill off your bad patterns

It's time to understand what's stopping you from getting the love you want.


Let's get back to my original question.

I told you we'd get back to it. Do you remember it?

Why the hell is it so hard to make love work?

It's not hard. It's just that what you've been doing so far hasn't worked.

But let me ask you a better question:

How can you expect others to value you if you don't value yourself enough to face and deal with shitty behavior?