Above all, women need to know that a man's fears are his, and nothing she can do will make him face/get through/get over them. He has to firstly acknowledge the fear and then start down the path of dealing with them. While she can create an environment that makes it safe for him to discuss things, it is still his choice to do so. It's not her job to make him do it, nor is it her failure if he chooses not to. All she can do is be there... but she can't force.
Start over or choose your path below.