Writings, rants, & advice.
Love has a tendency of sweeping many people off their feet. However, with that rush of emotion, physical attraction, and "connection", red flags can get overlooked. The result is a broken heart, and a misguided thought that they "did something wrong". Many times, the tell-tale signs show themselves early in the dating process... if you are paying close attention.
With all the dating horror stories and myths out there, it's no wonder why dating has become so barrier-centered. Almost everyone’s got their walls built high, tight and locked to protect their feelings and even more so, their egos. Let's kill off the games...
"I've always had self-esteem problems and confidence issues... but this has just taken it out of me. I don't think I can have sex with him without thinking of how many porn starlets he's gotten off to... or if he's thinking of them while having sex with me."
In your early twenties, sex is sometimes all you can think about when it comes to a relationship. As time goes on, you reach your thirties and even your forties, and this feeling starts to go away. This can often lead to a relationship (or marriage) becoming obsolete and both partners growing away from each other.
"I met this guy and we had a GREAT time on our first few dates. Then, he vanished! No calls. No texts. Nothing! I was so confused!! What gives with this guy? Was he just bullsh*t? How can I see the signs of this in the future?"
This is not a feel-good article. This is a rant; a fast and furious reality check.
Relationships might end in a flash, but the feelings that were shared don't dissipate at the same speed. Why? Because no matter what caused the breakup, the good things in the relationship are still good. And if they were really good, that will leave a space that isn't easily filled.