Date a man who smiles. Date a man who spends his time on improving himself emotionally as well as physically. He might have issues with time because he has a unquenchable thirst for living, and for life itself. Date a man who has a list of things he wants to learn... about himself, about the world around him, and about others.
I don't want to focus on the woman's side of these problems... because these behaviors are not the problems of women. Yes, these issues impact women (in profoundly ugly ways), but they reflect the deep-rooted issues of (some) men.
All relationships have peaks and valleys. To get through the challenges, you BOTH need to put in... for yourselves and for each other.