Successful relationships are built on equality, to be sure, but men should still come with a confidence that shows them as a leader. This may sound basic, but many men seem to have missed this boat—perhaps through insecurity, a checkered romantic past, or (the worst offender) indifference—and aren't able to make a decision, react correctly in social situations, or even plan a date. He doesn't need to have all the answers, but he needs to bring at least 50% of things to the table. If you find yourself putting more into the relationship than you planned, talk about it. If it doesn't change, pack your bags.